Alimony Payments: Why They’re Necessary 

If you’ve recently been ordered by the court to provide alimony payments, it likely left a bad taste in your mouth. Why are you responsible for paying your former spouses way? Why do they deserve your hard earned money? It’s not uncommon that the paying party feels slighted by these payments. But, we’re here to tell you why you shouldn’t. Judges handle alimony and divorce proceedings every day, and while the system isn’t always perfect— there is a degree of exactness that goes into agreements such as these. So we’re going to help you understand.

Alimony Payments: Why They’re Necessary

Alimony is typically awarded to a spouse that earns less money, or carries more of the ‘family weight’ versus the financial weight. Typically, one parent will choose to stay home with the kids for a while. Ultimately, unless you have daily childcare, one parent must be there until the child starts school. In doing so, that parent is sacrificing their ability to get a job out in the world. Therefore, they are carrying the majority of the family weight, while the other spouse takes care of the financial weight.

Alimony payments allow for the parent who spent their time building a home, to find financial security

When you marry someone, ‘what’s mine is yours’ is typically the sentiment. When you start a life and family with someone, you understand that you’re both taking on important, yet different roles. But, if you go through divorce, it’s easy for you to misplace those emotions in exchange for anger. You might go from feeling as if you have shared earnings, to wanting to protect them.

By paying alimony, you’re helping your family— not your former spouse go shopping

Think of alimony as a means of keeping your family safe while you work it all out. Typically, you will receive alimony payments only for a specific amount of time. In some cases, you can even do an alimony buyout where you pay a lump sum— versus monthly installments. So, think of this as a time where you help your family grow. Your former spouse is part of your family too, and will always be if you have children together.

So, it’s important to understand the role that alimony payments are making in helping them prosper and gain the independence they sacrificed to build a home and a family for the both of you.